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Posted by on Jul 30, 2017 in About Blackacre, Blackacre, Forgiveness, Leadership, Leo Barron Hicks, Love, Motivation, Personal Motivation, Progressive policy, Public Disgrace, Reconciliation, Shame | 8 comments

Making Peace with the Past


There are several steps to making peace with the past. First, whether completely innocent or mostly guilty take personal responsibility for your situation and own the damn thing. We are all required to take a sober assessment of our circumstances, recognize and experience genuine remorse for our misdeeds, make restitution to those we have harmed and atone for our transgressions.

Second, embrace gratitude and acceptance. It is fit and proper to recognize our shortcomings. It is not appropriate however to let them defeat us. As long as we are on this side of the ground, there is hope, regardless the pain of living.

Third, put matters in perspective. Take life neither too personally nor too seriously. Few things are about us even if they happen to us. We simply cannot see the larger picture. So try not to sweat the small stuff. And remember, it’s all small stuff.

Fourth, forgive everyone and everything associated with the matter. Absolve God, the police, judge, jury, your family and/or anyone else who wronged you. Pardon the weather, the time of day, the dope you smoked, the alcohol you consumed or the compromises you were compelled to make, regardless how painful the situation or difficult the act of forgiveness.

Above all, forgive yourself. We all fall short of our better selves.

So when greeted by scorn and rejection, gently remind your tormentor of Jesus’s admonition, “he who is without sin, cast the first stone.”

We are not defined by what happened to us in the past. Nor are we measured by what someone does to us in the present. We are instead defined by who we chose to be. We are measured by what we do today. And we all have a history.






  1. Leo you said, “As long as we are on this side of the ground, there is hope, regardless the pain of living.”

    Sounds like what the Apollo astronauts were coerced into believing, to keep the “lie” alive. As long as they believed/maintained what “the ground” (NASA mission control) was trying to perpetuate as the truth, then the benefit would outweigh the pain of living with that lie.


    • Interesting perspective.

    • You are a faithful follower and I appreciate your comments. Thanks.

  2. Leo,
    That is some great advice. Even though it is very difficult to think forgiveness when you are suffering through the pain. I have always been taught to “Live to Forgive, and Love to Forget”.

    Glad to see the Blackacre rolling again.

    • Thanks Pat and I am not particularly good at forgiving either.

  3. Living in the moment is a challenge. Gratefulness is impossible while acknowledging lack in any form. Undoing millennia of western thought patterns (results of psychological warfare) is becoming more and more difficult to show as a viable option to the current generations of adults and youth. They have mostly bought into the western definitions of wealth, health, self empowerment, etc. The odd part is that not only is the truth out there (or what some indicividuals would define as “their personal truth”), but it is also more easily accessible than ever before. All disease (“dis” ease, lack of molecular/vibrational balance in a body) is the root of all ailments. In a land where 80% of our youth are being raised in single parent, below poverty level households, self gratitude is unbeknownst to most people. It’s something we can only practice, likely never to master.

    • Living is tough. And your comments about our youth are especially relevant. Thanks for the feedback.

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